“Do you know," Peter asked, "why swallows build in the eaves of houses? It is to listen to the stories.” ~ J.M. Barrie, Peter Pan


saying no: the scintilla project, day 3

sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind.
write about a time you taught someone a lesson you didn't want to teach.


it has never happened.

there have never been children to be grounded.  cats and dogs walk all over me.  i am the wussiest of all wussies.  even now, even in the thinking of have i ever wanted to?,  and finding yes for an answer, i know i won't.  even now, in the thinking of the times of almost,  i laugh at myself.  those almost times would've made situations harder for others, never for the person for whom the lesson would've been intended.  and so.  i haven't.

am i overdue?  when i began to type these words, i thought yes, but here at this sentence, i think no.  i feel no need to teach anyone anything.  i have grown to accept less . . . wrongs . . . from people, but there is no point in pressing the point.  i have learned to say no, but that was a lesson for me.



  1. "I have learned to say no, but that was a lesson for me."

    Oh, yes. Indeed.


  2. I think this is a lesson for all of us. A good one, too.

  3. And you know what? If that is enough for you then it is enough.

  4. Saying no is one of the hardest lessons to learn... I don't think we ever learn it fully.

    1. i think you're right. it's such a hard word to say.

      thanks for stopping by!

  5. good for you for learning to say no. so many don't ever arrive there.

  6. hehe... when I first saw this photo, my first immediate instinct was to click on the arrows to start the movie.
    Watching too much youtube, perhaps?


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