“Do you know," Peter asked, "why swallows build in the eaves of houses? It is to listen to the stories.” ~ J.M. Barrie, Peter Pan


We say goodbye

Mary E. Burton
January 28, 1914 - February 15, 2009

What else is there to say?
We end in joy.
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx~ T Roethke
you will be missed


  1. She was a blessing...as are you.
    all my love,

  2. *Please forgive me for not knowing exactly what is good to say. My heart aches for you and you are in my thoughts often...

    Dearest Debi,

    I love the idea that the raccoon is her spirit guide after reading what you wrote about her ways. She must be one very special lady! You are blessed to know her, and her you. You seem to have complemented each other with great style. I know God will comfort you and keep you in his hands. You are the apple of His eye and you are on His mind always.

    You'll see her again.

  3. Debi, I'm very new to the blog world, but have already chosen my favorite blogs ... and yours is one of them. The words you wrote about your friend across the street have struck a deep chord for me. I lost my beloved grandma on Friday Feb 13. The photo you posted could've been my grandma from the back. My heart is broken. I hope the birds sung her to sleep where she was... at my Aunt's home. Now I fly from California to Ohio to lay her to rest next to my grandpa. A last visit to "the home place." I'm looking for a rainbow at the end of the clouds. I know its there... just can't see it yet.

  4. Debi, There are no words that really comfort, I know. At least, no words of mine. I am wishing that I could hug you till you let go. Listen to your stories till you fell silent. Pass you the Kleenex and cry with you till your tears dry. Those things do help. Wishing I could do those things for you. Instead, I offer you my thoughts, my prayers, my love.

  5. Now I understand. Blessings to you.

  6. Oh, you must have been very close. She seemed to be a remarkable woman indeed. I'm so sorry for your loss. Maybe plant a small garden in her memory? I work through my grief that way.

  7. My heart hurts for you. I can only hope that when my day comes, my life was so well lived.

  8. I'm sorry for your loss~ Patti

  9. In the shadow of today,
    only steps away.

  10. I'm so sorry Debi.

    May you find comfort in the memories you hold so dearly of her.

    Sending you love

  11. I'm so sorry hon....She was such a fascinating woman. Celebrate her life now, especially now with spring coming early, delight in what she can show you from there...You are in my thoughts and prayers, love you dearly!

  12. Michelle - She was. Thank you so much.

    Valaine - I was indeed blessed to know Mary. Thank you for your thoughts: words are unnecessary - there are none invented that make this easier. But we are fine, we go on. Mary would have it no other way.

    Vicki - I have emailed you. My heart goes with you. Take care.

    Relyn - Thoughts, prayers & love cannot be beat. I feel them all & thnak you much.

    Margo - Thank you. I had to laugh at running into you in Frankston. A quick trip, I thought, 25 minutes there, buy that thing for Michael & out - I will see no one I know, it will matter not that I look so terrible. And yet I walk in the door & there is the cashier reading Somerset Life & there you are. It made me smile on the way home.

    Branda - She was quite remarkable. A true treasure. A memorial will be held for her later; she donated her body to science, so we have a few days to gather ourselves & plan. A garden is a great idea - she was very much a gardener herself & told me that to be a gardener was to be open to surprises & failures. It was to be an optimist. Thank you.

    Melissa - Oh me too! What a wonderful life I would have led if I reach the end as Mary did. Many thanks!

    Mary - Thank you. Your thoughts are much appreciated.

    Patti - And thank you. It means a lot.

    jfrancis - Thank you also. A poem for this day,

    Jaime - There is much comfort in my memories. She was a true friend. Thank you so much.

    Christy - I am so glad she was able to see another blooming of the camellias & tulip trees; she loved them so much. I meant to email you, but it was a long day & I fell asleep on the couch. Thank you so much.

    Eilandkind - It is right around the corner.

    To everyone - thank you. JY called yesterday to remind me of a poem by Emily Dickinson:

    There's been a death in the opposite house
    As lately as to-day.
    I know it by the numb look
    Such houses have alway.

    I sit here & look at Mary's house across the street, now empty, now numb. Charlie the cat is still there, but we must find a way to entice him across the street, to incorporate him into our lives. It will be hard; Maggie & he fight, and he will continue to return to Mary's house, to his home. This is the direction my prayers now take - an easy move for Charlie & an acceptance by Maggie.

    Again, thank you all. Happier posts will be coming soon.

    :) Debi

  13. i want to say i am so sorry for your loss. she must have been an extraordinary woman and friend.

  14. Through your words, Deb, we know Mary was loved. Ahhh, a good life!

    When We're Gone Long Gone
    written by
    Jamie O'Hara and Kieran Kane

    Trouble we have known trouble
    In our struggle just to get by
    Many times the burden'd been heavy
    Still we carried on side by side

    And when we're gone long gone
    The only thing that will have mattered
    Is the love that we shared and the way that we cared
    When we're gone long gone

    And when we're walking together in glory
    Hand in hand through eternity
    It's the love that will be remembered
    Not wealth not poverty

    And when we're gone long gone
    The only thing that will have mattered
    Is the love that we shared and the way that we cared
    When we're gone long gone

    And when we're gone long gone
    The only thing that will have mattered
    Is the love that we shared and the way that we cared
    When we're gone long gone

    Peace, Love and Sympathy,

  15. "Keep it precious" ~ melissa etheridge~

  16. ohhhh. she is going to be missed. i see she wore red toenails well into her 90s :) you've described her well over the months i have read your blog.
    i love you sweetly.

  17. Oh, Debi. I'm so sorry for your loss. You made Mary a lovely, real friend to many. Sending you love and hugs. I am sure you were as much of a gift to her as she was to you.


  18. debi, be well and know that you were as special to mary as she is to you.

  19. oh my friend today it is me who don't know what to say.

    i think every single soul who leaves us leaves an intensely personal emptiness behind. we know that this is the way of life yet the missing of the joy of knowing life in that exact form will never fade.

    i send much love*

  20. words elude me at times like this...
    love and peace o everyone

  21. Dear debi,
    from your posts I can tell that Mary was vibrant and full of life right to the end. I am sure she will be missed. How wonderful that she had friends like you to comfort her as she let go and how fitting that the raccoon trickster should lead her on her way. I hope that Charlie will find his way to your welcoming home.

  22. What a beautiful image. It makes me sad and happy at the same time. Even though I can't see her face, her beauty shines bright in the photo.

  23. I'm sure you brought lots of joy to her life! So sweet.

  24. I expect Mary would be delighted to know you shared her with 'the Sisters" :) it is nice that even more people will have a way to remember her even if never meeting her. Being forgotten after leaving this world is a fear that we all live with. you did good :)


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