“Do you know," Peter asked, "why swallows build in the eaves of houses? It is to listen to the stories.” ~ J.M. Barrie, Peter Pan


The bride thinks twice

A friend of the lovely Katie's showed up at a wedding Sunday. The groom did not.
Better to find out who he is really is now  than later.

 It reminded me a piece I made a while back. Eyes open, closed, open again. She's tied in. The doors close her in further.

 Have I mentioned my fear of entrapment?  :)


  1. Ohh! I like it! When I was in my early 20's and dating, I would inevitably have a nightmare about each guy I was dating, it was alwways the same, I would be in the back of the church during my own wedding to whomever with HIS mother and I always felt sick to my stomach! Never got that dream with hubby,

  2. Entrapment definitely fits here. You nailed this one. I like it, but it leaves me feeling very uneasy. And I guess that is what it is supposed to do.

    I want to reach back to the hands and kittens in your earlier posts. I need something soothing.


  3. Michelle - I have a friend who never even watched the video of her 1st wedding/marriage, which, needless to say, ended in divorce. :)

    Cookie - It's not a piece that exudes joy, that's for sure. It IS about uneasiness, about doubt.
    Hands & kittens are about caring. Much more soothing a subject.

    :) Debi

  4. Very interesting piece of art. I am all about freedom as well...makes me wonder if I will ever tie the knot. Time will tell.

    I feel so sad for the poor bride...but you are right, better to know sooner than later! This might have saved her from years of misery...who knows?

  5. Interesting piece! :-)

    And while I appreciate it's always better to find thinsg out sooner than later - that poor bride!


  6. Jaime & Claire - The poor bride. I KNOW! About 50 people waiting for the groom to show up & announce his love for her in front of all of them, and then . . . I can't imagine how horrible she must feel.

    And re: freedom/entrapment. It's a little goofy, because I've been with the same guy for 23 years or so now. We don't live together, but we have this business together, and things work out okay. So you never know what relationships hold in store. I have a neighbor (he just turned 80) whose wife lives in the house next door to him. They just hated living together, but loved each other, so bought the house next door & solved the problem.. That's been a jillion years ago, and they're still going strong. He's an artist, a painter. (Maybe that explains his weirdness! LOL!)

    :) Debi

  7. OMG I just had an ephiany! I could live next to my husband, I think I would love him more, And when we saw each other, it would be because we WANTED to! That will be our retirement!

  8. I think it's the string that really makes the piece work. For me that's the item that makes it scary. And that's so weird, because it's such a simple, friendly, domestic little knot... Or maybe that's just it.


  9. My husband likes to joke that if it ever happened that we couldn't stand eachother, he could move into the garage...:)

    I'm thinking it was definately a good thing that the groom didn't show up to that wedding. Lucky her! (Although I'm sure she's probably not thinking that right now.)

    How many people do we know that probably shouldn't have showed up to their weddings? Me...I know quite a few.

    I really like your art piece...it's a little dark, but life has those shady corners.

    I also love the stories about you, and your love...and your neighbors marriage. Whatever works...and whatever makes you happy...:)

  10. Steve - Thank you. It's a scary little piece, couched in non-scariness.

    And I'm just a fraidy cat.

    :) Debi

  11. Ms. Enchanted - Thank you very much! I actually believe in marriage very much - believe in the sanctity of it, believe in the importance of it. I take it very seriously, which has a lot to do with my single status. Many people don't get that, so they show up to those weddings they shouldn't have.

    That said, I am NOT excusing the groom in this horrible event. He should've called it off in private - way before the wedding, but hopefully the bride is beginning to realize her true luck.

  12. that is a sad and sorry situation for the bride...wow i'm not sure i could handle that without falling over the edge...my sense of humor would need to be at hand to survive an experience like that...sheesh was this her first wedding? maybe she had the date wrong....

    now i am very happy to gather a few more debi-facts:

    the ever wonderful michael of 23 years. that is a big puzzle piece falling in to place. i hadn't yet figured out how come you were both coming and going so much :)

    and then the neighborhood sitcom (a good happy family sitcom mind you) advances one more season...living next door in order to remain together. that is a brilliant idea for a full season of shows!

    you realize that by sharing your entire neighborhood's personal stories that this is becoming a memoir-slash-novel of high comedy and drama don't you? not a bad way to handle writer's block eh? just keep a blog instead of a manuscript :)

  13. Oh, Robin, and I haven't even yet talked about Brilliant Dan, although every time I see him walk by with black socks & sandals - no shirt - walking the wonderful Miss Sabrina, and everytime he begins conversations absolutely apropos of nothing (last night it was - without a hello, mind you - "My friend Pat went to the boats" - that's the gambling casinos in Shreveport, LA, just about 85 miles away - " and won $64,000") I am quite tempted.

    :) Debi


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