“Do you know," Peter asked, "why swallows build in the eaves of houses? It is to listen to the stories.” ~ J.M. Barrie, Peter Pan


Learning to receive

My mother wants to pay for any veterinarian bills incurred whenever I am unable to give Maggie her fluids. I should actually say whenever the ever-wonderful Michael gives Maggie her fluids - I just hold her. 2 acts right there - 2 acts I've just listed of giving to me. See? I was going to start this post with just talking about my mother's kindness, but in just explaining her kindness, Michael's kindness pops into the picture. How very interesting - God is playing with me, making sure I really get this. I told my mother no, but Mary says I'm wrong. Mary says let her do it. And she's right. My mother wants to help. I will let her.

My life is peopled with friends & relatives who are more than generous. I don't say thank you enough. In truth, I feel awkward about accepting their gifts of time, compliments, encouragement or even needed financial help. But I am so lucky. Nothing is expected in return - it just makes these people happy to help me, or surprise me with unexpected gifts. I am never made to feel small or unimportant - my life is full of cheerleaders.

When Michael & I began to see each other, I worked 3 jobs & went to school. And was still always broke. He kept me in Coca-Colas. He does more now, but he is always there. Last winter, when I spur-of-the-moment decided to leave work & drive 45 minutes to see Eileen Ivers in concert, when I was just so exhausted from the Christmas rush, so needing at least a small break that I was literally in tears, not only did he say go, he handed me money to buy my ticket. I didn't ask for or expect it, but he wanted to give to me. Last week, after tallying up just how much money I will need for Maggie, I called & cancelled my once-every-2-weeks massage. He made me call Theresa back, made me tell her I'd be there. Made sure I could at least keep that in my life.

I can list so many people, so many incidents. So many who believe in me, and who obviously care about me. Why is that is so hard to say?

It is a lesson to learn.

~ "Let us be grateful to people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom." ~ M Proust


  1. How lucky you are to have such wonderful, giving people in your life.
    And how very lucky they are (and we are!) to have you, my beautiful friend.


  2. I second jamies statement. Couont your blessinigs. and know that at some point you will be that person for someone else.

  3. you did it! you said it! and it is public knowledge now. "many , many people and pets love debi and want her to feel loved." that could be a cheer or at least the chorus to one :) you sound very gracious and appreciative of those who on on your team. and deserving. i am right there beside jamie with the feelings of happiness that you here with us.

  4. it IS hard to remember to be thankful and grateful when life gets in the way. you are very lucky to have people who take good care of you in your life! :-) thank you for sharing it, it's a reminder to all of us to be more appreciative! :-)

  5. To all - I include you all as part of that cheerleader section - remember the pom poms? It's been very unexpected to receive such gifts from people I've never met, but feel I've come to know.

    Thank you doesn't seem enough, but it's all I have.

    Love you all!
    :) Debi

  6. Gosh, you just keep blowing me away with such beautiful posts! And the befitting quote to go with it. I am truly speechless and nodding in agreement that I feel that way too about people who give to me.
    Thank you!

  7. Paula - Katie & I have been dicussing this. Being a gracious receiver can be so tough because we tend to not feel like we deserve whatever is being offered. Someone should give lessons. Well, maybe life teaches us.

    :) Debi

  8. Reciprocation for good deeds doesn't often happen immediately.... or even in the same decade! Sometimes the reciprocation isn't even a give and take between two people. A good deed may be passed on to someone else. People get pleasure and a certain amount of sustenance from being kind and giving, so accept it. Besides- you may not realize how many kindnesses you have extended to people without even knowing....to complete that circle.


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